Are we really wired for gratitude? Is it really our nature?
Gratitude is a favorite, yet on going, practice in my life. It’s a practice I seem to turn to in my more dissatisfied moments. Typically when I am feeling crappy, unloved, pissed off, unappreciated and over worked. In these times I sit myself down and remember all the good fortune I have. Even though sometimes I may have dig a bit deeper. For example, I run out to move my car and find I have a big fat ticket! “Paula you are fortunate to have a car and the ticket is still cheaper than a lot!!” I somehow feel a bit better––just a bit.
I started to think: Why do I have to “practice” gratitude? Why am I not naturally appreciative? Am I actually greedy and ungrateful? Then I began to remember the clients I counsel and the conversations we have about fostering gratitude.
It seems the job of the mind is to find a problem and solve it. Or even to make up a problem to solve! This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s what has propelled evolution isn’t it? If this wasn’t true I might be writing this in the dark, next to my friend who is complaining that he can’t move his deer that he killed with a rock because no one has come up with the wheel yet!
I have begun to find gratitude for my desires and my need to achieve. In this I am experiencing a deep peace. There is nothing wrong with me! In fact it is human nature to want more and to keep looking forward. This looking forward seems much more supported when I can appreciate the richness from which it came. When I can count my blessings and then add one more yet to be realized.
We have some amazing workshops and events coming up that will take you deep into the exploration of gratitude- check out our Thanksgiving With a Twist Workshop on Nov 27th and our annual Winter Urban Silent Retreat on January 3rd.